What Does An Umbilical Cord Have to Do With Divorce and Kids?!

From my work with divorced and divorcing parents with children, I have developed a theory I call the Umbilical Cord Theory. It is based on my repeated observation of how parents respond to grieving a divorce. In an intact family, our kids live with us, generally, for 18 years. During those years, we have an opportunity to nurture them and support them so that when they move on in their lives, we have provided them a strong foundation. But in divorce with children, this process of letting go begins way earlier.

I use the metaphor of cutting off the umbilical cord prematurely to talk about the premature letting go that is required in divorce, and the differences between mothers and fathers grieving experiences.

CLICK HERE to watch my video to discover why knowing more about the Umbilical Cord Theory can save you a great deal of stress and mistrust so you can better understand the reasons behind what your Ex says to you and why you feel and react the way you do.

In Support ~




CatProfileCat J. Zavis is an Attorney, Mediator, Child Advocate, Coach for Parents co-parenting their children after divorce and Author of the upcoming book,Parenting with Your Ex: Another F***ing Growth Opportunity.” As a divorced mother of 2, she deeply understands the challenges, trauma and opportunities divorce provides. She has been practicing Nonviolent Communication, Mediation and Collaborative Law for 7 years. She conducts workshops and trainings in Nonviolent Communication for parents, lawyers, teachers, students, spiritual centers and professionals. In 2009, she was awarded a Peace Builder Award for her business. Her combination of personal experience and professional expertise give Cat a unique perspective and ability to help co parents learn to communicate effectively and powerfully to transform their relationships and interactions with their former after divorce so they and their children can thrive.

Cat can be reached at clientcare@parentingwithyourex.com


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