Is Your Ex Your Enemy?

It’s so easy to turn your former lover into your enemy, especially in a divorce with kids. You need to end the madness of your marriage and the sometimes the only way to do this is to make him/her into your enemy. After all, you’re in a war, right? S/he lacked the ability or willingness to change and so you believe you had no other choice but to assess blame. But are there any real winners in this scenario? I don’t think so.

Blaming not only keeps you stuck in the past but ends up building resentment. When there is resentment, no one wants to cooperate. If you want to move on to the vast possibilities of your post-divorce life for yourself and your children, you’ll need to stop pointing the finger and turn the focus back to yourself with self-empathy and compassion.

CLICK HERE to watch my video on how tuning in to your feelings and what you might be wanting and needing can completely transform your world and make you happier and create more joy for everyone around you.

In Support ~




CatProfileCat J. Zavis is an Attorney, Mediator, Child Advocate, Coach for Parents co-parenting their children after divorce and Author of the upcoming book,Parenting with Your Ex: Another F***ing Growth Opportunity.” As a divorced mother of 2, she deeply understands the challenges, trauma and opportunities divorce provides. She has been practicing Nonviolent Communication, Mediation and Collaborative Law for 7 years. She conducts workshops and trainings in Nonviolent Communication for parents, lawyers, teachers, students, spiritual centers and professionals. In 2009, she was awarded a Peace Builder Award for her business. Her combination of personal experience and professional expertise give Cat a unique perspective and ability to help co parents learn to communicate effectively and powerfully to transform their relationships and interactions with their former after divorce so they and their children can thrive.

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